Becoming · A Guided Marriage Journey

Become whole, together.

A guided, sequential journey for couples, 4–6 hours a month of focused work, a monthly 60-minute Coach’s Corner with Chariti, and a stepping-stone curriculum that blends neuroscience, emotional intelligence, and spiritual formation.

The Monthly Arc

Twelve stepping stones, one journey.

Month 1

Foundations of Safety & Vision

Establishing emotional safety and shared purpose.

Self-regulation · Motivation

Month 2

The Stories We Carry

Understanding how family of origin shapes reactions.

Story mapping · Empathy · Compassion

Month 3

Lies & Truth: Rewriting the Story

Naming false beliefs and replacing them with truth.

Belief awareness · Emotional honesty · Reframing

Month 4

The Reset Month

Letting the work settle through rest, gratitude, and play.

Nervous-system regulation · Gratitude · Joy without agenda

Month 5

By Design

How each of you is wired, where your energy goes, and why your differences are design rather than defect.

Self-awareness · Empathy · Motivation

Month 6

Communication That Connects

Tone, listening, empathy, and a shared language for needs.

Nervous-system awareness · Repair language · Self-soothing

Month 7

Regulation & Repair

Managing triggers, emotional recovery, and reconnection.

Expressing needs · Active listening · Non-defensive communication

Month 8

Integration & Practice

Consolidating the skills through deliberate practice.

Letting go · Grace · Emotional maturity

Month 9

Forgiveness & Intimacy

Releasing resentment, rebuilding trust, restoring closeness.

Shared play · Curiosity · Gratitude

Month 10

Friendship & Delight

Restoring joy, laughter, play, and curiosity.

Safe vulnerability · Honest needs · Empathy in closeness

Month 11

Storm Seasons & Lament

Processing pain, grief, and life transitions as a team.

Compassion · Endurance · Emotional co-regulation

Month 12

Renewal & Legacy

Year-end integration, gratitude, and vision for what comes next.

Integration · Storytelling · Future vision

Check-Ins That Keep You Honest

Reflection, not a report card.

Every month of Becoming includes a guided assessment, a few honest minutes that show you where you’re growing and where this month’s work matters most. Lower scores aren’t failures; they’re a map.

Members work through the monthly check-ins right on this site, and results appear instantly, nothing is sent, stored, or shared.

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Inside the portal

Everything lives here

The moment you enrol, your access code opens the Becoming portal: all twelve months, their guides, tools and practices, laid out in order. It stays open for the whole journey, on any device.

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Enrolment

The whole twelve months, however you would rather pay for it.

Becoming opens with a group of twenty-five couples. You get all twelve months, the full library as each month unlocks, and a monthly live group Q&A with Chariti.

Monthly

$197 a month

The whole journey, paid as you walk it. Cancel any time; your access ends when the billing does.

Paid in full

$1,970 once

The same twelve months, settled in one go. That is two months free against the monthly plan.

Twenty-five couples is a real cap, not a countdown. It’s the number Chariti can actually hold on a live call. When it’s full, enrollment closes and the standard rate of $247 a month opens later.

For context: this is less than a couple of months of weekly counseling, for a journey that runs a full year.

Add-On Coaching

Some months you want more than the material.

Becoming is a journey the two of you walk together, but some months land on something you would rather not work out on your own. When that happens, you can add private time with Chariti, one couple and one coach, alongside the course you are already in.

Add-On Coaching

Starting at $175 a month

Every couple needs a different rhythm. Once a month is a great place to start. If you want more, we’ll build a plan around it. Book a call and we’ll figure out what fits.

This is only available to couples actively taking the Becoming Course. That is not an upsell rule, it is what makes the time work: Chariti already knows the framework you are inside, so the hour goes to your marriage instead of catching her up. If you are not in Becoming and want one-on-one coaching, the coaching page has the paths that are open to you.

Questions, Answered

Before you begin.

How much time does Becoming take?

Plan on 4–6 hours a month of focused work, plus a monthly 60-minute Coach’s Corner session with Chariti. The journey is sequential, each month builds on the last.

What if my spouse is hesitant?

That’s common, and it doesn’t disqualify you. Hesitance usually softens when the work feels safe rather than accusatory, and Becoming is built to feel like understanding, not blame. Start with the free Marriage Resilience Assessment together; it’s a gentle first step.

Is this counseling?

No. Becoming is a coaching-based growth journey, not counseling, therapy, or crisis intervention. If your marriage is in acute crisis, licensed care is the right first step, and we’ll gladly point you there.

Walk it together.

Twelve months, one path, both of you, becoming whole, together.

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